Diary Notes, Dec 2023 to Jan 2024 (Timestamped, Google Keep, S23)

These are my diary entries from 3rd December 2023 to the 27th Jan 2024. I used the Google Keep app to write these notes, the editing history is visible on the app and the screenshot to show that they have not been amended since the time of writing.

I often feel the need to write down what I do around the house and how often I have the children because I get the feeling that everybody thinks I do nothing.

After reading all of the witness statements I am very glad I took the time to write down what I do because Chantelle has spent a long time trying to convince the people around her that I do nothing for her and the kids and that she does everything on her own.

I have these notes and the time stamped pictures of me with the children from my phone to prove that she is a liar.

What other woman gets this many lie ins from her partner who also has to also work multiple jobs to pay all of the bills?

In these notes, on the 13th Jan, I write about an argument we had in the kitchen where she threw a knife. I think this incident is mentioned in the witness statements.

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Note that I never managed to write down what I do every day so these notes are only partial. There are many times where I have just been to busy to log everything I do throughout the day.

26/27th August 2024, Draft SMS, Chantelle Drunk (Timestamped, Samsung Notes, S21FE)

This was a draftet text message which I don't believe was sent, but was written in the early hours of the night Chantelle went out with Hannah.

It clearly shows my frustrations with Chantelle and her drinking.

Whilst I am being accused of "not letting her out with her firends", I state here "next time you want a night our get a hotel" which contradicts the accusation that I prevent her from going out.

It also states that "her friends don't invite her out" which is the truth of the matter.

I have also included screenshots of the messages between myself and Hannah later in the morning.

8th July 2024 - Frustrated Text Draft (Timestamped, Samsunng NOtes, S21FE)

This is a note expressing my frustrations with Chantelle being unable to wake up through the babies screams through the night.

Chantelle hated the fact that I slept downstairs and left most of the night feeds to her.

I done all of the night feeds with Richie for 6 weeks when he was born then shared the night feeds for the next 2 years which was hell having a physical job to do too (Cheshire Pressure).

Once Tommy was born I done the night feeds mself downstairs for about 10 days, but I now had 4X the amount of work responsibilities - Cheshire Pressure, Fresh Exteriors, Greenlight Motors, Jewellery gifts and probably more.

I had to start sleeping downstairs because it was starting to seriously affect my work and our families income.

It shows how I was made late for work by Chantelle in the morning which is very common, although none of her friends and family are there to witness this so I guess it never happens unless Chantelle tells them which she never would.

I'm writing this draft message because of the constant complaining by Chantelle about her having to do the night feeds.

Chantelle can afford to sit around all day in pyjamas and the bills get paid.

I can't afford to do that. If I could I would happily do all the night feeds but I haev lot's of work commitments which pay the bills.

Here I wam about to leave fro SPaina fetr receiving a job offer which would add another £10 per month to our household income.

That job would have been the 5th job I would be doing simultaniously on top of the other 4.

I show here how many different work commitments I have every day already.

It shows how oblivious CHantelle is to what I do for her and the kids.

She wouldn't dream of offering me any help with anything.

Whilst I've been up with the baby all night, then running around all day working, then cooking tea for the kids, washing my own clothes, putting Richie to bed, the only thing that she commented on all day is the money for her hair and moaning about my Dad came around unanounced whilst her faily can come and go as they please.

Rules for thee but not for me.

Diary Notes, Various Dates from 2021 to Jan 2024 (Timestamped, Dairy App, S21FE)

Various notes that were enteted into a diary app on my phone which shows how much I do for work and my family.

These diary inputs are infrequent as I am normally too busy and forget to log my activities every day but I try and make a habit of keeping a diary becasue no matter how much I do it's never noticed.

I write down some of the times that I have my children, Chantelle constantly lies to all of her firends and family telling them that I never have the children and I'm "just a fun uncle figure" to them.

Unsent SMS Draft on Various Frustrations, Vitamins, Fatigue (Timestamped 10th April 2024, Samsung NOtes, S21FE)

An unfinished draft SMS found in my Samsung Notes app on me S21FE phone timestamped 10th April 2024.

I often want to vent my frustrations with Chantelle, I start writing notes to send as a text message but I normally give up because I realise there's no point, Chantelle will never care about anything that I want.

I try my best to get her to look after her own health but she doesn't care. BLood tests, doctors appointments, she doesn't care.

I'm concerned about my childrens health but she doesn't care.

At this point I'd been asking the teenagers to help with things around the house but they ignore me as they have been for 10 years and Chantelle doesn't back me up.

I have felt like a mug for a very long time in that relationship and I'm glad to be out of it.

I also note how her family neevr see what I do, I've been aware for a while that their poinion of me has been negative and after reading all the witness statements and finding out all the lies Chantelle has been telling them is it any wonder?

Unsent Draft SMS to Chantelle. Various Frustrations, Mainly the Kids Bedrooms (Timestamped 4th April 2024, Samsung Notes S21FE)

I list here all of the things I pay for.

It's not about the money, I have to work hard for that momey, the things I pay for and the things we buy and the meals out etc - that's all from my hard work.

No matter how much I provide for everyone everything is taken for granted, nothing is even noticed.

I work hard and provide for everyone in that house and in return everybody ignores me when I ask them to do anything.

The credit cards mentioned were in my name, I got myself into debt supporting my family over winter 2023.

I also note how she has the freedom to go out and do whatever she wants on any day.

(But she won't do anything for herself, she sits there moaning that nobody has taking her out)

My main frustration at this time was the kids and their constant disrespect. They have been ignoing everything I ask of them for 10 years whilst I provide more for them than their own Fathers do.

Baby Feed Diary (Timestamped 30th September 2021, Samsung Notes, S21FE)

Chantelle says in her statement to police that I did nothing to help when Richie was born. It's just one of her many lies.

Here are some detailed notes I was taking of the baby feeds. She would love you to believe that I left her to do everything on her own and that I don't care about my children.

She's a liar.

I had never done this before so I was making an effort to do it right.

I stopped taking these notes in the Samsung Notes app after I found a baby feed diary app. I continued logging all of the baby feeds as I was doing all fo the night feeds for 6 weeks while Chantelle slept.

You can see that I was making an effort to be a good Dad. Contrary to Chantelles accusations.

Facebook Status, Bird Did a Baby (Timestamped 24th September 2021

Chantelle vents her frustrations about me posting on Facebook when our first son was born instead of calling her Mum first.

She didn't ask me to call her Mum and i was excstatic about having a baby.

SMS Draft to Chantelle's Friend (Timestamped 5th Feb 2022, Samsung Notes S21FE

Chantelle has accused me of not letting her out with her firends.

On the contrary, Chantelle has been complaining to me for years about her friends not bothering with her any more.

I drafted this message to one of her firends. I think it would have probably been Hannah. I'm not sure if I sent it or not as I don't have any messages saved from that long ago.

You can see here that I was concerned about Chantelle and the fact that she felt let down by all her friends.

I'm quite literally the opposite of what she's accusing me of being.

Draft SMS to Chantelle Regarding her Drinking (Timestamped 15th December 2022)

Here I note how Chantelle has been frustrating me for a long time by ruining our nights out together.

Her Mum makes it sound like Chantelle's life was perfect before she got with me.

She was on anti-depressants before I got with her so she has clearly shown signs of having mental health issues in the past.

I note how she goes through my phone at every opportunity when I'm asleep.

She reads all my messages on every app, deleyed hundreds of friends from Facebook who have never even messaged me.

If a girl had liked a picture or status that I posted, even if they were pics of me with my son or a funny joke as a status - Boom, they're gone.

She's been doing this to me for years.

I note here also how unattractive I find Chantelle when she gets herself too drunk.

This note was written after one of the many nights that she ruined by causing arguments over nothing.

Her Sister says in her statement that Chantelle doesn't drink more than she can handle.

Alicia has not been around to witness the antics that I have had to put up with from Chantelle when she drinks too much, which is pretty much guaranteed to happen when we go out anywhere.

This is the reason I stpoped even trying to arrange date nights.

Unfinished Draft SMS Regarding Chantelle Drinking (Timestamped 26th June 2022)

Another unfinished draft SMS of me airing my frustrations about Chantelle drinking too much.

She's been doing this for years every time we go out.

Unfinished Draft SMS Regarding Chantelle Causing Arguments When Drunk, Spying on Me (Timestamped 18th November 2021, Samsung Notes, S21FE)

Here I draft a text message to Chantelle about various frustrations.

She causes arguments all the time when she's drunk.

She punched me in the face when drunk in front of one of my clients, Steve James (He's agreed to write a statement for me confirming this)

She dissapeared down an alleyway at midnight for 20 minutes with my ex business partner.

She snogged a guy in front of me in McDonalds in Liverpool when she was jealous of me talking to a girl in the queue.

She tells her friends, in front of me, that I pay for porn, trying to embarras me.

(She found an OnlyFans account on my phone. I showed her what I paid for. There was one £8 subscription to an ASMR girl. It wans't even porn.)

(Not mentioned in this note but she has also told her friends, in front of me, on multiple occasions, that "I'm not her type", which has made me feel very awkward in front of her firends)

She deletes people that she doesn't like from my Facebook.

She spies on all of my conversations, she has been doing this for years.

This message was drafted in 2021.

This behaviour from her continued to escalate until she eventually planting hidden spy cameras around the house to secretly record me in 2024.

In 10 years I have never even attempted to go through Chantelle's phone. Nor would I ever want to.

Draft SMS, Frustrations with Chantelle Not Letting me Sleep (Timestamped 25th Jan 2024, Samsung Notes, S21FE)

SMS draft from Samsung notes airing my frustrations of how inconsiderate Chantelle is.

She makes me late for work all the time and doesn't care.

It's been a constant frustration for years that Chantelle will not get out of bed in the morning even if I tell her I'm late for work.

It normally takes me several attempts to wake her up, after the 3rd or 4th time trying, if she's not been flailing around in bed sayign "STOP SHOUTING AT ME" when I haven't even raised my voice, she will be sat there lying in bed scrolling through her phone until I come back up and beg her to get up and take the kids off me so I can do my job.

I hate waking her up, it's like trying to get a moody teenager out of bed in the monring. I normally try my best to have the kids until she wakes up naturally to avoid the arguments.

But if I have work to do I have no choice but to wake her up.

Also, at the time of writing this note, I was sleeping downsatirs because I had 3 or 4 jobs at the time and couldn't risk sleeping upstairs in case the baby was a nightmare all night.

(My various work responsibilities of meeting and greeting customers, shaking hadns, chatting, measuring up jobs and writing quotes, along with all of my laptop work, it's very difficult to do with little sleep and our families income does suffer if I'm not on the ball)

While I slept downstairs, eery morning Mia would get up at 6:30am.

I'd be asleep either on the couch or on my floor mattress.

Mia would turn all the lights on, put the TV on loud and start cooking herself breakfast.

She wouldn't care if it woke me up.

So the latest I could ever sleep until was 6:30am.

I told Chantelle this and asked if she would go to bed for 11 max because I'm always up at 6:30am with Mia.

Chantelle always refused to go to bed earlier for me and would stay up every night until midnight or later watching Netflix, even thoguh she could see that I was tired and needed to sleep.

This draft SMS on my phone highlights those frustrations.

Note to Self, Love my Baby (Timestamped 27th September 2021)

Chantelle and her family paint a picture of me as a unloving selfish Father and Partner who doesn't care about his kids.

These are the types of notes I write to myself.

Along with the thousands of timestamped pictures and videos I have of me with my children, and all of the diary entires and notes showing how often I am with them, I'm just not the person they're making me out to be.

I'm hearthbroken at the minute, I love my boys and I haven't seen either of them in almost a year now thanks to all of these false accusations and the costs involved to keep myself out of prison.

I have tried to be civil with Chantelle, spent £4,500 on family law solicitors, offered her £800 month maintenance, only to be offered 1 hour every fortnight supervised visits in a contact centre.

Unfortunately I can't afford to pay for criminal law solicitors (£20,700) and family law costs (estimates of up to £50,000) at the same time.

SO I'm goign to have to deal with the fact that she is in total control of my children until I have gotten this criminal court case out of the way.

SMS Draft to Boss Ragarding Night Shifts with Baby Tommy (Timestamped 20th or 22nd September 2023)

Here is an SMS I drafted to my boss when Tommy was born telling him that I'm goign to be doing the night shifts for a few weeks so Chantelle can sleep.

It contradicts what Chantelle says about me not helping with the children.

She is lying through her teeth about me constantly.

Draft SMS RE Chantelle's Underappreciation (Timestamped 13th June 2022, Samsung Notes, S21FE)

Draft SMS to Chantelle expressing my frustrations on how little she appreciates the things I do for her and how hard I work.

You can see from all of these notes and messages that I have been unhappy with how I'm treated in our relationship for years.

This draft SMS shows how much I provide for my family (none of it was for me) in contrast to what Chantelle thinks I do.

May 2022 cost me at least £1,847 to provide for everyone. That's direct family costs.

I also spent £860 on the house and garden trying to make it a nicer place for us to live in.

That's not including what I spent on myself.

Chantelle had told me that I'd only provided £600.

Imagine busting your balls every day of the week and doing the best you can oly for your partner not to notice the majoroty of things you have done.

Imagien your partner then lying to everyone making you out to be a shit partner.

I've spent years doing this and the majority of what I do for everyone always goes unoticed and it puts a strain on our relationship.

I don't know how we ever lasted so long together.

Best of luck to the next man.

Note to Self, Frustrations, Nobody Helping Me (Timestamped 3rd Jan 2023, Samsung Notes, S21FE)

This is a note I wrote in Jan 2023 noting all of the lack of sleep I get whilst cleaning up after everyone, cooking tea, nobody helping me, working to provide for everybody.

At this point in time I was cooking tea for everyone every night.

That stopped after a while because nobody could be bothered helping me clean up afterwards.

I started just doing Iceland shops and letting people cook their own food because the juice just wasn't worth the squeeze.

I've been frustrated with everyone in that house because I work very hard to provide for everyone and I have always got very little in return.

I felt like a slave.

SMS Draft, Richie Night Feeds (Timestamped 7th March 2022, Samsung Notes, S21FE)

Chantelle wants everyone to believe that she's a super hero who does everything on her own and that I'm the lazy partner who does nothing for anybody.

The truth is the opposite and always has been.

I think at this point that she actually believes her own lies.

At the time of writing this Chantelle was in a bad mood and had been for a while.

Might have been post natal depression.

But it made the atmosphere in the house quite bad.

She would be in a bad mood with me constantly no matter how much I helped, to the point where I was making myself ill.

No matter how much I done for her I would never have any appreciation, in reality I would receive the opposite.

I remember around this time too that Sam Arnold had said to Chantelle "I bet he makes you do everything on your own" to which Chantelle replied "Yes".

That annoyed me because it just wasn't true.

Note that this was written on the 6th March 2023, 6 months after Richie was born.

Chantelle says in her statement that I provided no support at all when both kids were born.

"you've not been changing nappies and winding the baby from 3am every day like I ahve since the day he was born"

She's an outright liar.

Draft SMS, Stopping the Nightfeeds, No Money (Timestamped 28th November 2021, My Bday, Samsung Notes, S21FE)

Draft SMS to Chantelle explaining that I had to now stop doing all of the nightfeeds 2 months after he was born.

A direct contradiction to the lies she tells about me.

Draft SMS, Frustrations with her kids (Timestamped 4th June 2023, Samsung Notes, S21FE)

Draft letter written to Chantelle explaining my frustrations with the disrespect I receive from her kids.

This has been a long standing issue in our relationship.

Chantelle has never been able to get her own children to help out around the house and all attempts from me had failed.

I've never felt like they're my kids, they both have Dads and they see them every few weeks.

I never wanted to get in the way of that or make it out like it's a competition between myself and their fathers.

Their Father underpay every month and have been since I got with Chantelle.

I have provided a decent life for the both of thema nd all I have ever recived back from them is disrespect.

I wanted Chantelle to help me with their pocket money jobs but she could never be bothered.

I have never shouted at her kids much at all, it never felt right to shout at someone elses kids.

I tried asking them for help but they just ignore me.

I try paying them for help and they just igore me.

I ask Chantelle to support me with putting some kind of routine in place but she couldn't be bothered.

I would work very hard to provide for everyone and I was forever frustrated at the disrespect, lies and stealing I got in return.

Letter to the Kids (Mikey and Mia) Asking for Help, Pocket Money (Timestamped 20th March 2022, Samsung Notes, S21FE)

This is a draft letter I wrote to the kids when I created the pocket money Whatsapp group.

I'd spent years being ignored when asking them to help and thought that this solutions would work, but it would take both me and Chantelle to make an effort for it to work.

It went well for a few weeks, the kids did their jobs but soon fell right back into their old habits and Chantelle didn't bother with it either after 6 weeks.

I left the group.

I think it was at that point that I'd completely gicen up on both of my step children.

Mia continued to steal from me and lie to me constatly.

Mikey continued to just rush upstairs after school and play on his Playstation all night.

I couldn't be bothered even trying any more.

I think I sent th kids a shorter version of this letter, this was just a draft.

Diary Notes (Timestamped 15th June 2022, Samsung Notes, S21FE)

Here I write frequently my daily doings which contradict what Chantelle says about me.

I wish I did this every day through our relationship but sho has time for it?

What I do for my family in contrast to the person Chantelle wants to portray me as is night and day.

Here she went out multiple times with her friends in the day time and night time.

I also note how she is horrible to me when she's drunk.

I cook, I clean, I look after the kids far more than she would lead you to believe, I work and pay all the bills, I don't know how much more I could do.

Various Diary Notes and General Notes (Timestamped Sep 2022 to Oct 2023, Samsung Notes, S21FE)

Here I write down some of my frustrations about our relationship and how I am treated by Chantelle and her kids.

I always have the intention of sending these notes as messages to Chantelle but as you can actually see from our full Whatsapp history I rarely ever bring these things up.

I normally write down my frustrations when I'm frustrated and then after a few days of biting my lip I move on and we don't argue about them.

You can see how frustrated i haev been by the state of the house, the mess and unorganisation, the lack of help I recieve from anybody and the way I'm treated by Chantelle.

Here are some of the points mentioned in these note:

- "I'm starting work at 1pm feeling like I've already doen a day" - Because I have, I'm normally up sorting the kids out in the mornings while Chantelle sleeps in.

- I offer to pay for the laundry to get soem at the dry cleaners but Chantelle refuses to let anybody but her do the laundry and the work never stops.

- I pay Shelly (our neighbour) for help to try and give Chantelle a break from housework.

- I'm frustated with Mikey because he won't do a single thing I ask, he won't help aroudn the hosue, and when I try and talk to him about it he just staes at me and says nothing until I give up and go away.

- I mentio Chantelle's suicide attempt and how I can't speak to her about things any more.

- I log some of the times and dates i have the children in the mornings. I write down a lot less than I actually do.

- How it takes Chantelle 5 hours to get the kids ready just to take them over the road. And you wonder why she doesn't get out much if somebody isn't taking her.

- How I was frusyrated with the way Chantelle put Richie to sleep every night, no routine.

- How I'm frustrated that I have to do 100% of the workign while also doing probably 50% of the housework and having the kids as much as I do to allow her to sleep in most mornings.

- How Chantelle's view of money is skewed which makes her underappreciate how hard it is to work and earnt he money it takes to support a family of 5 and eventually 6. She's been getting free money off the government since she was 18, she has no idea how hard I have to work to earn enough to support us all.

- How no matter how much I ask her to feed my kids healthy foods she just ignores me. What control do I have in that house exactly?

- How i'm frustrated with the abysmal state of Mikeys dumpster bedroom.

- You can see from these notes how unhappy I was in that relationship.

- How I don't think Chantelle is stupid, but her lack of effort into everything she does frustrates me and puts further pressure on me to do more than I should have to all the time.

- "It's 10am and I'm dying to get some work done" - This is me most mornings when I can't get Chantelle out of bed

- How I sit downstairs doing the night feeds so Chantelle can sleep while I'm aslo trying to do the work that pays the bills

- When I say "you have a go at me for comparing you to other people" - That's because I mentioned I spoke to our friend Eve and she gave me some advice regarding the baby, I passed this advice on to Chantelle and she had a pop at me for "comparing her to other people". The thing is, Chantelle is not willing to take advice from anyone. She does everything her way and if you don't like it you can suck eggs. She takes everything as criticism which makes it impossible to have a conversation with her about anything.

Chantelle Jewellery Photos, Samsung S23

The reason for us getting the Samsung phone on Chantelle's Klarna account was so we could take good quality pictures for a jewellery project which I'd started.

Chantelle knew about this, I applied for the phone in front of her, and now she is saying that she doesn't know what it is,

I wanted Chantelle to be involved in this project with me because she had nothing else going on in her life aside from the kids.

In fact the only reason I started the jewellery business was because I thought Chantelle would like it.

I have absolutely no interest in womens jewelelry whatsoever.

I'd tried previously to help her set up a part time business selilng art work as that's what she said she wanted to do, but she didn't put any effort into it so it went nowhere. I'll explain that project in another section.

Her friends and family make it look like I'm the reason Chantelle has stopped working.

I encourage her to do work, to work on something she can proud of, and to have some sense of independence and personal fulfilment outside of the home.

We tried to do these photoshoots on several occasions (with the phone in question) but Tommy would never let us have more than 30 minutes peace and we had nobody during the day to look after the baby.

These are just some of the images we took, I have more in a fodler on my computer.

Hidden Spy Cameras

These are the hidden spy cameras which Chantelle would plant around the hosue to secretly record me.

I found one in the bedroom pointing at the bed and I've found 2 at different times in the living room pointing at the chair I sit on.

She has denied that the purpose of the cameras was to record me.

She says that the camera in the bedroom was a baby monitor (although it was ponited at the bed and hidden on top of the wardrobe and she never told me about it, I have no idea how long it was there for)

The thing is regarding these cameras, they're clearly marketed as "hidden spy cameras" online

And the 2nd camera i found in the front room she said it was to catch Mia eating.

The third one I found again in the front room but I didn't confront her about it I just threw it in the bin.

Chantelle goes through my phone religiously and spies on everything i do, she reads all of my messages and questions me on conversations I'm having.

She deletes girls from my Facebook account if she doesn't liek them.

Every time i go out I get questioned about where I'be been and who I've been with,

She's never found any evidence of me cheating on her but it has never stopped her from trying.

Imagine how intrusive it is to live in a house where you are constantly thinking your every move and conversation is being secretly recorded.

I found a 4th one still in the box hidden in our bedroom. I am still in possesion of it.

Kids Rooms

These are some of the pictures i have of Mias room so you understand my frustrations about how untidy it was.

Mias bedroom is a fire hazard. Under those piles of clothes you'll find overloaded extenion leads.

Chantelle hadn't cleaned her kids rooms for years.

I have pics of both rooms over the years in the same state, some worse, especially after the mould started growing, but those images are on the hard drives which I am still trying to get repaired.

One of the images shows the after picture once I'd finished cleaning Mias bedroom along with the reciept from the dry cleaners. Jack was sent these pictures when I was trying to keep him informed as a parent.